i can’t afford it
At this point in my life, I have had hundreds, maybe even thousands of people say to me “I can’t afford it”. I’ve heard it from people about my coaching programs, Yoga Teacher Trainings, Cleanse Programs, Yogi Trainings, and even just chatting with friends. People say “I can’t afford it” all the time to me. And it hurts my body.
The pain isn’t from rejection, it’s from the extreme limitations you create when you say that phrase. Because I know the power of language, I NEVER say “I can’t afford it.”
I’m fascinated by language and words and what they really mean. Afford actually comes from the Old English word meaning: go forth, perform or accomplish. How very interesting…
When you say “I can’t afford it” what you are really saying is I’m unable to accomplish it. I can’t afford it is limiting your realm of possibility, and limiting what you think you are capable of.
The truth is, affordability is relative and we all have our version of what we are willing and not willing to pay for. Some of us value health and good food, others nice things, some value activities and vacations, others value comfort, some value personal growth.
It’s important to understand that you can actually afford almost anything, if you decide that’s what you want and that it has value for you. Affordability has nothing to do with what job you have, it has to do with how you think about life.
If there is something you really want, or something you need, you figure out a way to make it happen. When I hear people say “I can’t afford it,” what I hear is “I’m unwilling to step out of my comfort zone. I’m limited in what I think is possible. I’m not actually interested enough.”
I’d love to see a culture where we don’t just say stuff to avoid discomfort. Let’s be honest with ourselves and one another. What if instead of falling back on the default, “I can’t afford it” we said “I don’t really want this”, or “this isn’t that important to me”, or “I’m unwilling to step beyond my financial comfort zone”, or “it might take me some time to gather the funds for this.”
My coach, Rich Litvin says “Money is a direct reflection of my creativity”. Which means, if you want more money, be more creative. Do you make money or does money make you? Does money control you or do you control money? In your relationship with money, who has the power? Do you work for money or does money work for you?
Challenge: Let’s say you want a $500 hula hoop, you know that hula hoop is going to change your world and will be a great investment, but you don’t know how you can find $500 extra. Blow your own mind by making a list of 50 ways you can create $1000 dollars. That’s right, go for twice as much as you think you want. Get wild. Think outside the box that’s outside the box. Push the upper limits of what you think is actually possible.
YAY MONEY! Let me know if you want to talk this out. One powerful conversation can change your life!