“I see you.

You view the world a little differently than the average muggle. You have strange superpowers, like the ability to sense when someone is going to sneeze before they do. Or you know when someone is going to call you. Or you can talk to spiders.

You are a misfit, and you are magical.

You feel deeply. You know that stuff is happening and changing right now on Earth. You are invigorated and confused. Excited and wondering “am I doing this right?”

You love people. You hate people. You cry, a lot. You give give give. You have a deep well of wisdom and talent just aching to pour out of you.

I see you.

I’m here for you. I’m on your team. I’m the Alfred to your Batman. The J.A.R.V.I.S. to your Ironman. The Galadriel to your Gandalf. I’m the Hermione to your Harry Potter.

I’m creating a team of super misfits who are ready to stir the pot and make some changes. It’s time to drop the excuses and grab your wands. Put on your superhero gear, cause you are about to rock the world.”

I posted that on Facebook and sent it to my tribe a couple of weeks ago. In the moment it was so true and so fun and just awesome. A lot of people “liked it” and that was about it.

Then a member of my superhero tribe (I’m part of a mastermind of the top 4% of coaches), said “Excuse me… You are not a number 2, you are a leader. Stop trying to be someone’s number 2, be the powerful leader you are.”

“Shit, she’s right”, was my response. I was left confused and stunned in the best possible way. This is why I’m part of my superhero tribe, they don’t let me play small. They don’t let me half ass it. They don’t let me fall to the sidelines.

So if I am a leader, what am I leading? Well the first thing that pops into my head is a revolution… a love revolution.

In this revolution, there aren’t really leaders and followers in the sense that we are used to. No one is in charge, but rather, there are thousands of us willing to be at the forefront of this wave.

Here’s the thing, we have a lot of shit tangled around the word “love”. In order to be in the revolution, you’ve got to drop the shit.

  • Preference: Oh my god Amy I LOVE those shoes.
  • Promotion: I LOVED that movie, go see it!
  • Reward: I LOVE that you washed the dishes.
  • Neediness: Do you LOVE me?
  • Manipulation: I’d LOVE it if you would take the trash out.
  • Agreement: I LOVE how you talk about politics.
  • Approval: I LOVE the way you redecorated your kitchen.

Sometimes we say “I love you” to end an argument. We say “I love you” to feel significant when they give the obligatory “I love you too” back to us. We say “I love you” and we mean give me space. “I love you” when we mean this isn’t working.

In order to be in this love revolution, you have to drop all that shit, and come back to the truth that love is the reality of who you are.

The reality of love is deep and wordless. The love I’m interested in exploring is the love that created this universe. The love that is gravity itself.

Love is the word I’m using to explain the mysterious forces in the universe. And here’s the thing, when you know love, the universe is no longer a mystery.

Despite some of the best inspirational meme’s on the internet, love has no opposite because love exists in all things. Fear isn’t love’s opposite, fear is a request for love. Hate is a request for love. Arguments… request for love. Depression, drug addiction, too much sugar, all requests for more love.

I can disagree with something and still experience love. I can love the thing I disagree with, and more importantly I can love the part of me that thinks it’s important to disagree with things.

Leading in love means being willing to BE LOVE, always, all ways. When I get on the phone with my clients, we dive into love. We step powerfully into our hearts, and charge ourselves up. We go through layers of subtle information so that we can step out into the world as leaders in love.

So yes, I’m on your team, because we are both leaders. Together, we make shit happen. You in? 

Bonus: check out my friend Matt Kahn.